Wednesday, March 30, 2005

SHE WALKS, SHE TALKS, SHE WIGGLES ON HER BELLY LIKE A REPTILE!: PART II

As children, our summers were measured by the arrival and departure of the county fair. We looked forward to it as the high point of summer freedom, and its departure brought that abrupt and unsettling realization that school would be starting in three weeks. The slow days took on an immediate nervous impatience. Summer was, for all good purposes, over.

The fair came in by train, screeching and halting, while whole families waited to meet it, leaning on their cars, listening for the whistle, imagining elephants and cotton candy and carousels.

In the decades before I was born, the carnies would rent rooms from the townspeople, staying with the same family year after year. My grandmother would "put up" fair folks, who brought money and a certain bawdy glamour to the town for ten hot August days each summer.

Held in especially high regard were the showgirls. The wives tolerated them, the men ogled them and there was a huge parade to welcome them. The floats were enormous islands of shifting puffiness, and poised and relaxed on top, one hand waving at the men whistling from the sidewalks of Main Street and the other casually steadying themselves, were the showgirls.

SHE WALKS, SHE TALKS, SHE WIGGLES ON HER BELLY LIKE A REPTILE!

I was watching a "makeover" show on TV yesterday, about a poor 40-year-old woman who submitted herself to the "transformative magic" of some perky designers. She apparently, according to the makeover artists at the beginning of the show, looked like she was 50 years old! The horror! So she was waxed, lifted, colored, shaded, goaded, advised, redressed and reborn as a red-headed........um.......shy self-conscious person.

They actually displayed her standing in a glass box at the end of the show like a specimen, with the public guessing her age. I couldn't help but be reminded of Coco Fusco and Guillermo Gomez-Peña and their art installation called "Undiscovered Amerindians".
In order to address the widespread practice of human displays, Fusco and Gomez-Peña enclosed their own bodies in a ten-by -twelve-foot cage and presented themselves as two previously unknown "specimens representative of the Guatinaui people" in the performance piece "Undiscovered Amerindians." Inside the cage Fusco and Peña outfitted themselves in outrageous costumes and preoccupied themselves with performing equally outlandish "native" tasks. Gomez-Peña was dressed in an Aztec style breastplate, complete with a leopard skin face wrestler's mask. Fusco, in some of her performances, donned a grass skirt, leopard skin bra, baseball cap, and sneakers. She also braided her hair, a readily identifiable sign of "native authenticity." (Postcolonial Studies at Emory )
The white woman in the "make-over" show yesterday was being offered as a "specimen representative of women", offered for judgement on how young and beautiful she appeared to strangers, but the ultimate judgement was her husband's. They brought him out with his eyes closed and we anticipated his reaction, his amazed delight that his wife was more beautiful than before. Younger. Lifted. Smoothed.... Timid.... Exposed.

Yea. He liked it. The passers-by on the street had guessed his newly beautified wife to be 38 years old on average, and he cheered at the news. She had pleased him. And isn't that what it's all about?

Tuesday, March 29, 2005

Model of Efficiency

Alrighty then. It seems Dolly had a date with her friends to the community dinner at the high school (she read me all the sponsors over the phone... mostly local banks, who kiss the elderly's ass to keep their assets). So I can't cross #2 off my list.

To Do:

1. Mess around with blog for hours
2. Visit Dolly
3. Take photos
4. See you later

Perhaps later in the week I'll drive over and visit Dolly, although I think she'd be just as happy if she never saw me again. I'm not being maudlin, but simply stating a fact. She has pretty much settled into life without me. I guess that happens. Your mother, for so many years tuned in to your every need, gradually becomes dispassionate and sort of forgets you're there. And isn't that wonderful?! She has a life. I was a little concerned when I asked her if she had walked today (she used to walk three miles every day and I thought I might join her) and she said, "Yes! In the house! I go through the bedroom and around the living room and back porch. I walk for a half-hour, really fast." The mental image of her doing that is mind-boggling.

So I headed for the video store and spotted a shopping cart resting on a magnificent dirty snow mountain in the parking lot and took a photo of it. I even climbed up on the hard pile (it will probably be there until June), with confused shoppers taking "note" that someone was doing something out of the ordinary. So there it is, in the sidebar. I guess I can't say photos (plural) but that one picture certainly goes a long way. Don't you think?

And here I am, later. Can you possibly guess how I am? (is blogger driving you crazy, too?)

Spring Break Day 5

To Do:
1. Mess around with blog for hours
2. Visit Dolly
3. Take photos
4. See you later

Monday, March 28, 2005

Practice Non-Action

Practice non-action and order will occur naturally. - Tao Te Ching
My spring break so far:

1. Plumbing problems! It seems that human waste has been backing up and spilling over. Instead of hiring the grunt work done, I shoveled myself. Traumatized!

2. Unexpected cost of plumbing problems= no money.

3. Weather: MUD! Everywhere! (and shit.)

4. AJ says I am writing pornography.

The last time I had plumbing problems we had to have the drain that goes all the way to the street replaced. The person who was actually doing the work, shoveling holes and digging shit, was paid minimum wage. The owner of the company would drive up in his Mercedes and oversee occasionally.

You know, the amount of human waste people expel is pretty amazing when it's not hidden in pipes and carried away. Kind of scary, really. Right after I shoveled (actually with a kitty litter scoop) about 50 pounds of it into a garbage bag I headed for the store to get some anti-bacterial soap. I turned on the radio and the topic was sanitation systems and the Bubonic Plague. The horror!

But it is all being "fixed" and we will soon be able to go on pretending that we don't create mounds of foul-smelling human excrement daily. We will also be past that last posting, its title glaring at the top of the page and its reference to "thick liquid soaking through pants" that is so troubling. We can pretend sexuality isn't there. We can pretend we don't shit. We can be innocent, and even sometimes pretend we aren't killing thousands of people in Iraq. (Now how in hell did that get in this nice patriotic Christian post?)

I am so used to pleasing everyone that I stop myself in my tracks. Is "action" the right course, or is it "non-action"? Are my capricious dreams my friends or my enemies? Does it matter? Who am I to create a "new life"?

A cardinal builds a nest in the bush under my window, and all the spring birds are singing "hallelulia" this morning. The crocuses pop up their yellow, white and purple heads amidst dirty piles of snow. Trash, washed toward grates in the street does its faded advertising.

Yesterday, sitting in a wet concrete parking lot of melting snow I saw papers and rubbish swirling upward, carried by the strong wind. Red paper spinning, flashing its bright color in the sun, circling... and finally large pieces of brownish newspaper lodged in the bare branches of a nearby tree. Grace and beauty are everywhere. You don't need money for that.

Saturday, March 26, 2005

Love Stories Are Not As Easy As You Think

Elvis, the first boy she ever loved, worked at a gas station and had grease-stained fingers that were already cracked and work-worn at age 15. Self-possessed, he stood leaning against her locker, making no mystery of his intentions. At first he would walk her home from school and later, when he borrowed his sister's Buick, she would sit close to him, liking the shape of his thigh against hers.

They would stop on country roads on cool summer nights and she liked the press of his soft lips, the way he pushed, his unashamed desire. She ran her palm up the tight front of his jeans and delighted in the hungry way he searched out her breasts, first through her clothes and later sliding his warm hands under her shirt, as if he belonged there. He owned her, but never coerced her. Warm thick liquid soaked through his pants on those nights, her wet fingers tucked in the elastic of his underwear.

But first loves are just that, and many boys later her nights gradually became more collective, focusing on parties, girlfriends, experimental trysts. On one of those lazy summer evenings, while walking with Ricki and Layla through the Catholic Cemetery, Layla glimpsed a case of beer hidden craftily amidst the plastic flowers and ornate tombstones.

OHMYGOD!!! Layla drags me toward the surprise gift from the gods that would surely make our evening more fun, and some other poor pilgrims' less fun. We had a "silent moment" for the ones who hid the alcohol for their later consumption, and we then proceeded to heft it into Layla's trunk and drive suspiciously away, trying to think up ways to get it cold while scanning the surroundings to make sure we weren't seen by someone.

"Let's put it in the creek." "No, it will just get stolen by somebody else!" Can you sneak it into your basement refrigerator?" "No way." "What are you wearing tonight?"

Later we speed down the dirt roads in Layla's father's Toronado, leaving a cloud of dust and drinking warm beer. Our arms out the windows, we feel the cool evening air whip at us, air us out. "WELL EAST COAST GIRLS ARE HIP I REALLY DIG THOSE STYLES THEY WEAR AND THE SOUTHERN GIRlS WITH THE WAY THEY TALK THEY KNOCK YOU OUT WHEN YOU'RE DOWN THERE. THE MIDWEST FARMER'S DAUGHTERS REALLY MAKE YOU FEEL ALRIGHT AND THE NORTHERN GIRLS WITH THE WAY THEY KISS THEY KEEP THEIR BOYFRIENDS WARM AT NIGHT"

"Are we midwest or northern?" "We are northern, damn it!" "I've gotta pee!" We stop in the road and Ricki crawls out the back window. The doors open and Veronica and Layla jump out, too. Squatting in the road, we watch the pee form rivers and tributaries toward our feet. We shift our weight, wipe with leaves and pull up our white jeans. Veronica is flying around the car, singing. She wants to drive. And I can see a car approaching. We rehearse our alibis.

A carload of guys pulls up, they pour out and we are an immediate mixed crowd. Ricki and J continue a deep conversation started the night before, and the rest of us show our wares. "You have vodka? All right!" Veronica is leaning against Archie, who is watching Ricki out of the corner of his eye. He takes a large swig out of the bottle and passes it on. Layla and I walk into the woods to pee again, and make plans to head into town. Back at the car, we gather the girls. "Let's go to the movies!"

"Where's Ricki?" Veronica wants us all to stick together tonight, she's paranoid. "She rode with the guys." Veronica is driving, and I can feel us weaving slightly to the right and then pulling back. "Jesus, watch where you're going, V!" We all scream in unison. "Where in the hell are we?" Ricki knows these roads, she has lived out this way all her life, but she has deserted us. "Let's finish the beer before we get into town." Tipping our heads back, we force the warm liquid into our mouths and down our throats. Uggggghhhhhhh. We vomit into our mouths, but swallow hard, somehow keep it down. Layla's drink doesn't make it to her stomach. She leans out the window and sprays puke at the passing weeds. "This tastes like shit!" "Hey! I know where we are! Turn left!"

Outside the local theatre, the marquee lights up our faces, and the girl working the ticket booth lets us in free. Sliding through the door, I glance back and see Elvis laughing drunkenly with some friends. I hurry past the popcorn and vending machines, and we sit in the back row, laughing loudly and heading often for the bathroom. The toilet's being used, Layla pees in the sink, and I am thinking we'd better get out of here. Back in the dark aisles, cinnamon candies bounce down the cement floor toward the movie screen and I hear someone retching on the other side of the theatre. There is commotion, shuffling, and somebody raises his voice. "Jesus Christ! Let's get out of here."

Hurrying out the front door we watch Elvis, propped up and staggering through the lobby, led by his friends. He heads straight for me, and grabs my arm. "You're coming with me!" "No. I'm not." And this time I mean it, although I still feel that draw, that desire to be owned by him. He's too drunk to take care of me. I am ashamed, and walk away. Even his friends are uncomfortable. As we walk coolly across the street toward the pool hall, I glance back and see Elvis, doubled over. His friends coax him, and I notice that he has wet his pants.

Friday, March 25, 2005

Searching for Ken Kesey

...I hate to say it, but it's true that I am not a really good academic. For me, intellectual work is related to what you could call "aestheticism," meaning transforming yourself...I am not interested in the academic status of what I am doing because my problem is my own transformation. That's the reason also why, when people say, "Well, you thought this a few years ago and now you say something else," my answer is..."Well, do you think I have worked like that all those years to say the same thing and not to be changed?" This transformation of one's self by one's own knowledge is, I think, something rather close to the aesthetic experience. Why should a painter work if he is not transformed by his own painting? - Michel Foucault, from an interview by Stephen Riggins
Some "tortured self-examination" by Ryan reminds me that I am always more interested in the process than the product. Always. "Stuff" just doesn't mean that much to me, unless I have WAY too little of it and it becomes the oppression of poverty (which I have also experienced and was glad to leave behind).

Graduate school was just another way of imposing self-discipline, and when I was done with it, I had no desire to be an academic. It was over. This is something that is very hard for most people, at least ones I am around, to understand. Most people are chasing a career, money, fame or the latest "trophy" for fulfillment.

I value those among us who are living creative lives. Some are well-known, but most are hidden. Yes, our culture is seeming very homogenized, isn't it? And uncreative. And rough. I scan the horizon for difference. The Bushites lead the charge against difference, against kindness, cloaking their violence in "Christian principles". We force life on Terri Shiavo while we kill tens of thousands of Iraqi citizens.

This morning, while searching for an interview I once read with Ken Kesey, who talked about his neighbor, an unknown farmer that he considered living a life at least equally important to his, I found another interview with Kesey by David Loftus, which contained some great quotes that brought me hope this morning.

First, Kesey on Iraq (1990):
Kesey says that as the personnel and machinery sit in the desert running up a tab, President Bush is forced to talk tougher and tougher because too many Americans are growing bored and want some action. "You go to a porno flick, you want to see a come. We want to see some kind of orgasm in the sand. We paid for it."
The political climate...
Kesey doesn't even dwell on the setbacks of Reaganism, or whether things will get better in the 1990s.

"The truth is that we are losers. You make enough fuss that you attract the real forces down on you. And then you have to hide. We're always gonna be in the minority, and we're always gonna lose. We've always lost, all through history. We're the divine losers. And I keep inviting all these young, smart people: 'Come with us. Lose with us. Lose beautifully. We are not meant to win.

If we had triumphed like we thought we were going to in the '60s, we would have become assholes like the rest of them. There's something about winning that makes you an asshole. When you're a loser, you have to scuffle and you have to keep your head down. The meek ain't gonna inherit shit."
And this:
"The democratic majority has never come up with one good scientific theorem in their life. It always comes from one person who everybody thinks of as wrong, and then they burn him. But 20 years later everybody says, 'Hey, you know, that guy was right that we burned.

There are always gonna be more dumb people than smart people. That's the bane of a democracy. I wouldn't change it -- I don't want a communist government. But the smart person is always going to end up last. The smarter he is, the laster he is gonna end up. But it only takes one. It only takes one Pythagoras. It only takes one Galileo. It only takes one Hoffman, who comes up with the acid. It spreads out from him.

Here's the quote I always use. You can count the number of seeds in an apple, but you can't count the number of apples in the seed. It only takes that one seed. And then the thing sprouts and lives."
And finally:
"If our government had its wishes, it would have Baptists coast to coast, all the same. Our job is to keep alive Buddhists, and satanists, and witches, and Hell's Angels, and scorpions and rattlesnakes and the blues -- and all that stuff government would like to do away with because they're an irritant."
But what does all this have to do with self-transformation? Let's keep our heads, kids. Go against the tide. Let's become compassionate human beings. Let's develop the courage to be irritants.

Shall we?

Wednesday, March 23, 2005

Spring Break

If I can drag my sorry ass through one more day of work tomorrow, I will be on

SPRING BREAK!

until April 4th. Other than the mountain of papers that I have to grade by the 29th I look forward to ten whole days of doing whatever I like. I have no plans.

Heavenly.

Monday, March 21, 2005

I'm Over It

God! I just spent about two hours writing a post and then it disappeared when I tried to publish it! But basically it said that I am over the whole "love in the blogosphere" thing. It's history, kids. HISTORY!

I am in transition, and I don't know where to go with this blog. It started as a way to discipline myself to write. Then comments trickled in and that was fascinating, and then the comments (wow!) became more important than the posts. But now that phase is over. I grow disenchanted. What shall I do with this blog?

Mo would paint the place. All the rooms would be transformed and best of all she would be transformed in the process.

AJ, on the other hand, would lose it. She'd miss it, search halfheartedly, but get along pretty well without it.

Me? I would agonize over it. Are my motives "right"? Am I being honest? Am I hurting anyone? Should I be suppressing my mind? Should I be indulging my mind? (It is not easy to know whether my mind is being virtuous or nonvirtuous.)

But what I really want is to be able to recognize what my mind is doing and have selfless motives. (Is that too much to ask?!) Hell, it's obvious that I need some direction here. Hey! Wise people! Buddhist teachers! I need you! C'mere!

Well, OK, I guess I'll chill, take the red pill once again, and see where this ride takes me.

Sunday, March 20, 2005

My Life is an Open Book

I had a friend in college whose mantra was, "My life is an open book." I loved her willingness to place herself in that vulnerable state, she was generous in so many respects. I fancied myself an open person too, and shared many things of value in my life, like lovers and music and long days and nights exploring the limits of relationships. But I wasn't an open book. I never was, not really, and sometimes my disparate selves collided in violent ways. They still do.

Has the time come to be transparent? Why not? What do I have to lose? Shall I lay out my laundry?

Or have I grown too fond of my old companion, fear? Fear of rejection? Fear of other people? Fear of myself? There is some oppressive comfort there after all, of being held tight, forced inward, learning early the masturbatory techniques of self-sufficiency. Putting on a face, acting a role, becoming a "part", the distinction between the represented and the real becomes fuzzy.

Madonna. Whore. Girl-next-door. I have continually revised my life, becoming the different representations required of me. I am essentialist and filled with hate. I am self-destructive. I am creative. I am angry. I blame. I feel compassion. I love. Too deeply. I fear it. I run away.

Come to me fear, wrap yourself around me, protect me from the uncertainty of life. Anaesthesize me. Play with my mind. That's it, give me my self-fulfilling prophecies, my dire predictions. Evil admirer. Fuck with me in those dark places.
We have to believe in the power of the imagination because it's all we have, and ours is stronger than theirs.
-Lawrence Thornhill, from The Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven, by Sherman Alexie

Thursday, March 17, 2005

In a Funk

I thought it was a case of The Mondays, but it has lasted two weeks. Maybe it's the weather. Or the job. Or maybe it's the stars and the planets. Maybe it's the state of the world. Or Bush. Or the environment. Maybe it is inertia, maybe it's sadness, as if my cat had died.

My cat died Sunday. She was 20 years old and she walked the length of the driveway to greet me each day when I arrived home from work. She is buried under the birdfeeder in a cardboard box, unable to make it to summer.

I wrote a post about my father and the next day a friend told me that in a dream they saw me standing with a man who was tall and wide. Looking, they realized that it was my father, and it felt like he was made of "light".

Long ago I went to a spiritualist church and the "pastor" said that my grandfather was "coming through", he wanted to tell me that he was watching over me. Ancestors can be scary.

I want to walk the length of the universe and lie down on the earth alone to die. No fanfare for me, the living will toss horseshoes, snap their gum, slap each others' cheeks stoically.

Dipping into their deepest memories, they will fake recognition of one another, make a day of it. Take some pictures.

Sunday, March 13, 2005

The Privilege of Running Roadblocks

Roadblocks, like Christmas, are an occasional decoration on the landscape of a prison town. A convict escapes, causing police cars with red lights flashing, to quickly appear, and as teenagers we learned to enjoy the holiday from afar. We worked around it. We learned how to navigate around roadblocks with our contraband, and there was an immunity bestowed upon us as town kids. We were the ones they were protecting, after all. Roadblocks added a sometimes inconvenient but exciting and dangerous element to our cruising, especially since there was always potential for drama at a roadblock.

Once at a roadblock on the fringes of our small town a car stopped, and as the trooper approached his shotgun discharged accidentally, the kick knocked him off balance, and he fell to the ground. The other troopers and officers on the scene, thinking he'd been shot by the driver, fired together at the innocent victim in the car and he was killed instantly.

On one intoxicating July afternoon in the midwest Ricki and Mellow Yellow and I drank Strohs beer, my father's brand, and traveled the dusty roads around town. This was Ricki's haunt, and she led us by rich green fields and black soil, pastures of horses and cows, the familiar smell of rich green manure filling our noses through the open windows. We crunched down gravel roads onto the two-tracks, into dark canopies of trees and dense green places.

Pulling the car up to the tall weeds by the pond, we eagerly climbed out of its confines, breathed in the smell of water and earth and surveyed the landscape in an instant, as teenagers do. Dragon flies hovered above the snake grass, the setting sun reflected on the glassy moving water and we were suspended for a moment in the emptiness and quiet of dusk. Mel was first. Pulling off her madras shorts and sleeveless shell, she ran headlong into the water, and soon her head was bobbing and disappearing out in the middle. Ricki and I leaned against the hot car with our beers, enjoying the last of the day's sun on our bare arms and legs. The car doors were flung open, the car instantly transformed into a different space, a bedroom, a kitchen, a living room. The radio softly gave us a soundtrack.

"Come here! You guys have gotta come and see this! Hurry up!" Ricki and I squinted out, not quite ready for the chilling water. But we leisurally stripped and paddled out to where Mel had splashed and disappeared again. Ricki and I took a deep gulp of air and dove down, into the cold depths. I saw Mel's feet moving through the cloudy water and felt goose bumps squeeze my cold white skin. Her body came into focus as I quickly moved down, and other bodies appeared in my vision, against her whiteness. There were stiff arms holding angular lanterns and rigid red jackets set against blue trousers. Chipped heads and faces with vacant eyes stared at me, or beyond me. Gliding closer, I moved my hand over the plaster, slimy and rigamortis-hard. I saw a haystack of bodies resting rigidly, black smooth faces of proud stable boys with jaunty red hats, all in poses of perpetual servitude, on the bottom of the cold spring-fed pond.

Rising fast, our eyes met. "Holy shit!" "Let's get out of here!" We gasped and splashed our way to shore, laughing but drawing our feet up from the cool depths, from the unknown.

Our clothes stuck to our wet skin and our hair dripped onto our shoulders, soaked into the warm upholstery, and the radio softly soothed us as the car crawled out of the two-track, onto gravel, into confident places. From then, the evening was enchanted. "How could a hundred stable boys end up on the bottom of the pond?" "There weren't a hundred, there were like, maybe twenty." "No. There were at least thirty." "Jesus Christ! Who put them there?"

That night, in a house on Washington Street the phone rings in the night. A dad, an employee of the town's prison system, is drugged with sleep, but he puts on his professional voice. Another prisoner has escaped. Roadblocks are quickly set up and the town's "other" self is on alert. The dad touches the door on his clothes cabinet behind which rests, waiting and loaded, a .38 Smith & Wesson snubnose revolver. He's made enemies of some of the prison population - not intentionally, it just comes with the job. He climbs back in bed and eventually finds an unfit sleep.

Black faces float in our heads as the beer goes down and the trees blur by and the sun has long disappeared in the west and the radio softly reminds us who we are. Later, slurring and sloppy, Ricki falls into a carload of boys, with much screaming and laughing. "You guys won't believe what happened!" Mel and I slowly squint our way toward her house, willing the two roads to become one. "Whoa! A little to the left! Okay, here's my driveway. Turn right! Now!"

Alone in my car, I speed down the highway toward home, almost airborne past the campground, past the prison, around the curve and into the city limits. Driving at the speed of light I notice, out of the corner of my eye, flashing red lights as I fly through the intersection. I hear a loud CRACK (a gun?) and I instinctively jerk my head down as I glance out the rear view mirror and see the police car behind me, coming on fast. I pull over, rehearsing how to act "sober". The officer has his gun drawn, and approaches my window.

"Can I see your driver's license and registration?" His flashlight searches the backseat. "Where are you going so fast?" "Open your trunk, please." "You afraid your parent's might be mad you're out so late?" "You're Calvin's daughter, aren't you?" "Come on back here to the parking lot."

They left me sitting there in the empty parking lot next to the intersection for an hour as they communed near their cars. Walkie talkies, blinking lights, barricades, and deep masculine voices. I hear the word "nigger" and my mind goes to the man who has escaped to freedom, perhaps on foot, scared and cold on a back road somewhere. Soft laughter. Finally the officer soberly approaches my window again. "You'd better get home," he says. "And be careful.
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Mellow Yellow, Ricki and MJ

Saturday, March 12, 2005

The Court Jesters

"The power of the fool lies in his freedom with respect to the hierarchy of the social order, that is, he speaks from outside as well as inside it...Who exercises this criticism in a society of submissive courtiers? Who can afford to tell the monarchs the uncomfortable truths without endangering their own position?...As the court jesters of modern society, all intellectuals have the duty to doubt everything that is obvious, to make relative all authority, to ask all those questions that no one else dares to ask...The truth of the fool is never quite serious, for it lacks the important mooring of responsibility (and also, of course, of power). This does not lessen its value; it makes it, however, all the more unreasonable to meet it with the heavy artillery of public suspicion and aspersions. Whether a society includes intellectual court jesters who critically question its institutions, and how it tolerates them, are a measure of its maturity and inner solidity" - Ralf Dahrendorf, "The Intellectual and Society: The Social Function of the "Fool" in the Twentieth Century"
I used to think the court jesters were comedians, sometimes actors, musicians, writers or academics. But I believe now that the court jesters are bloggers. Where else but in the blogosphere do you see people who see it as their duty to "...doubt everything that is obvious, making relative all authority, asking questions that no one else dares to ask"? That is where I go for reassurance that there is still a pulse in our country. It is where I find hope.

Friday, March 11, 2005

What I Really Want to Do Today

I'm off to another all-day meeting. This time it is "professional development", where teachers are pitted against teachers because some of them are getting paid a stipend for holding other teachers accountable for doing extra work.

What I really want to do is talk about this:
The end of the world is not just coming; it's here. Until Bush came in it was still possible to be successful, happy. That was two years ago, but now the wheel is turning and I don't think what we're in now will possibly get any better. - Hunter S Thompson, in an interview by Marty Beckerman.

Wednesday, March 09, 2005

He Always Called Me "Baby"

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Dad in Drag (right)
I look for my "self" in my father. I search his face in pictures, looking for revelation. Can I glimpse his concealed soul, passed on to me? My own conflicting memories of him demand resolution. I ask people who knew him to write about him, believing that the "true" person will eventually appear.

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College Days
If he was angry or confused, he probably had a right to be - wondering why he was so unfortunate having had to endure such rough going in the war. He didn't talk about those experiences very much. Probably just as well. Most people can't envision that kind of trauma. Maybe he felt the world owed him something better than life as a barber. I liked his Dad as well and thought that they both chose an honorable and respectable, even enviable, pursuit. From what I could observe, he raised a darn fine family and developed a goodly circle of friends. I might add, for good measure, we were all jealous of the fact that your mother chose him to marry!
-his high school friend

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With Dolly
We started dating and had such good times. We both liked music and sang while riding always. Such harmony. We also liked to dance and always had the reputation of dancing wherever we went. If we were outside we had the car radio. Danced on tennis courts, roads, porches, not like Ginger and Fred. We had our own style. Especially liked fast dancing. We would go to The Lake Ballroom and that was a huge ballroom, and dance most of the night. Our dancing continued, even at home, until he got too ill. We would dance at home and after we had children they would tell us they could hear the bones creak.

He was so strong. I have always liked tall men.

We were married in Jan. 1942 and in April, 1942 he was inducted into the Army. He went to Camp Crowder, MO, and then to Camp Gordon, Augusta, GA. From there he was sent overseas to Casablanca and was there before Christmas. We didn't hear from him until Christmas morning and the mailman came with a package from him with a gift for his Mom, Dad, and me. We were so glad to hear that he was alive and ok. We also got a telegram. He was in the Signal Corps and he went on ahead of his group. He went from Africa to Italy and was involved in the landing at Salerno. We didn't know it at the time or we would have been basket cases. In May, 1944 he returned to the States. We lived in Atlanta, Georgia. until he was discharged. I quit my job at The Power Co. when I heard he was back in the States and went by train to Georgia. Part of the time we lived on the Fort MacPherson base. With rationing, etc, we didn't have too much but we had a nice life and were glad to be together again.
-Dolly

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With Georgia
Things may have gotten worse over time. Perhaps they did, or perhaps it just got harder for us both - things crack or, more likely, just wear away with time and the insides ooze out and dry out and tire out. I think I was happy to be with him once upon a time. I sat by his chair on the floor. He chose a boxer (black trunks, white trunks); the other one was mine. One of us won a quarter. I think we laughed. It was Friday night and I stayed up late, falling asleep on the rug in the living room and waking up cold. I believe we smiled. I believe we never touched even when walking close together in a crowd. We went in the car, he and I and the dog; the old car with the scratchy seats. I threw poorly and never got better a it - I believe he always hoped someday I could throw better. He didn't drink so much - only on weekends maybe. I can't remember a single conversation between us but perhaps we talked as we bounced along on the pricky seats and threw and shot. He gave me a gun. A shotgun that had been his. He took it and had someone cut the barrel short to make it lighter (and to widen the spray of pellets). I must have practiced. Maybe he threw clay discs for me to shoot at. I don't remember. I know he would have thrown the discs very well, even bravely.

My father. Sitting low in a red chair, his arms on it's arms, fingers twist, twist, twist, twist the red hair around and around, the coke bottle (you remember those easy-to-hold green bottles) in his left hand - the arm hangs over the gray carpet and I am lying on the gray place under the green bottle that used to be full of coke but was filled and filled and filled, how many times? from a bottle of whiskey taken from the cupboard shelf by the sink. "It's a pretty bad day" adult-daughter whispers into child-daughter's ear..., "be quiet, be still, be quiet, don't look, be quiet, don't talk...stay." He smelled a certain way that I can't describe but if I smelled that again I know that I would feel unhappy. I have no memory of what my father's face looks like - at least not as a whole piece of work. I know his hair would stand up almost straight in front where he had worried away at it. I know his hands were long and thin and I saw their bones and veins. I know a large dark freckle on the second finger of his left hand. I have that same freckle - sometimes that hand is my hand - but careful now, girl. I know what the dent under his right elbow looked like; the texture of the red vinyl chair. Light red and black shadow. But of course it was a safe place to look.

I believe now that he was depressed: maybe not all the time at first, but with a deep and black fullness, and that our mother guarded him, watching for those times, fixing him with positive attitude. Hell, it might have even worked for a while. Maybe I guarded, too. Later it didn't matter.
- Georgia

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He Always Called Me "Baby"
We had a cabin at Red Lake. The water was rusty and we had an outhouse, but that didn't bother me. I caught frogs, and went out on the pontoon, and dove down to the weeds, and took the rowboat along the thick shore to find fairy haunts. He loved it too, and it was Alex, our dog, and me and him that knew the place. We knew the musty smell of the cabin when we'd open the door after not being there for the winter. We liked the cold, and getting wet, and then coming in and smelling scorched socks as we stood steaming at the stove. We liked the concrete of the floor and the mucky lake bottom. We knew the smell of wet dog and army blankets and rotting tree trunks. We were the ones that loved this.

We would drive around the lake to the bathing beach, where there was sand. At least there was some sand mixed with the clay of the lake bottom. We would get out of the car, drop our bathroom towels and run into the rusty water. I would swim quickly to him, to his strong arms again, and he would lift me up high onto his slippery shoulders. Screaming, I'd spring off into a splashy dive, going deep between his legs among the cool flowing weeds. He'd stay there, out where it's deep, until I grew tired, and wandered shoreward, to the others.
- MJ

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With his Father

Tuesday, March 08, 2005

Work=Death

I can't shake this black mood. Or maybe that bad case of The Mondays is lingering. I feel like I've lost a good friend, and it makes me sad.

Maybe it has something to do with my job, and the fact that I have to attend an all-day K-12 English Language Arts curriculum meeting today. We increasingly chase the test scores, and base everything we do in the classroom on improving them (thank you Bush). The curriculum is geared toward that end.

And I always thought "curric" should be a verb, that it was something you do together with students. That you, as a teacher, find out what your students need and base learning activities on that. That it should be different each year, based on a new group of students. It should never be repeated, because once done, it is dead.

The public school system is so fucked up. I don't even believe in what I am doing. And it is, with the surveillance that takes place, almost impossible to be subversive.

So I gotta get ready for my meeting (the curriculum director usually flips out on the teachers and I have seen yelling matches in the past - I don't yell, I just observe. I'm trying to slip under the radar.) Yup, I'm struggling today, kids. Wish me luck.

Sunday, March 06, 2005

Small Talk

AJ flew back to NYC last night. Here are some topics of conversation during our drive to the airport. We actually talked about politics, which is unusual, AJ used to avoid it at any cost.

1. The environment and cars and Bush dismantling Amtrak.

2. The Iran invasion that will certainly take place soon.

3. Bush, but only for a moment. It's just too depressing.

4. The divisive presidential election and the seemingly hopeless state of things like social security, unions, health care, the war in Iraq, our lying government, the pathetic state of the mainstream press....

5. "Mo and her men" - actually this is a pat phrase. Mo has one man now, her bar owner/Fiji co-adventurer.

6. Mark Kozelek - AJ now sings "a medley of covers of Mark Kozelek doing covers of AC/DC" which are extremely moving. She gives the misogynistic lyrics a little country twang, ("I've had more pretty women than most men have...") and then goes right into a cover of Mark Kozelek doing a cover of Shirley Bassey doing a cover of Frank Sinatra doing a cover of Judy Collins doing a cover of the Stephen Sondheim song, "Send in the Clowns"! She took artistic license and changed the words somewhat, to "Bring in dem clownses". Quite a tearful rendition. (Mark actually did this cover at his concert at the Bowery Ballroom - quite a surprise - the guy's got guts!)

7. AJ's alcohol consumption in the midwest compared to her alcohol consumption in NYC. (decreased considerably while in NYC, "because there's nothing to do in the midwest. And parents add to the behavior by puritanically forbidding stuff.")

8. AJ's attraction to "older" men. She figures the 15-year age difference puts them on an equal maturity level (like age 15?).

9. That MJ should move. MJ SHOULD move. What is stopping her? Could it be that she thinks about everything from so many different angles that she paralyses herself?

10. P, a friend who is a bartender at the club in NYC where AJ works, who, while covering for AJ Saturday night, jumped over the bar to yell at some obnoxious customers who had been rude to her all night. She just snapped, which I am sure every bartender, waitress, waiter, etc in NYC can relate to. (AJ loves Waiter Rant. Go there. It's really great. AJ's restaurant/club is also mentioned at Shameless Restaurants.com, which is another must-see NYC site.) Anyhow, P quit on the spot, walked out, started partying and called AJ at 2am.

11. Plans! My plan to drive to Florida on the last day of school. AJ's dance plans. She's a hip-hop dancer, and there were (needless to say) a few choice "moves" during her performance of the Mark Kozelek covers. Wow!

12. Money. Not having it is oppressive, but having too much is oppressive, too. That's a hard one.

So AJ got flagged on her way through the metal detector, as usual. She was searched, patted, questioned, the whole thing. I think it's because she has dark skin. People are always asking if she is this or that nationality. When she was finally cleared, she put on her belt and shoes, we blew each other a kiss, like sad separated refugees, and I walked away.

Friday, March 04, 2005

Bathing Suit Bodies

It was a real mistake, but I tried bathing suits on today. Actually I was looking for a bikini for Moe, who is flying to Fiji on April 16th. Since I was already up to my ass in bathing suits, I decided to just go for it. Get it over with. Hell. Try some on.

Oh. My. God.

Fitting rooms were created to make women look like shit. JESUS! I'm sure my legs don't look like that. And what the fuck, is this some kind of joke? My eyes look like they are bleeding. I suck in my stomach and smile, as if the personality that I exude will slice away all the places upon which my warped vision fixates. Breasts? Too big. Legs? Ohmygod. Stomach? Suck it in. Shoulders back! Imagine movement! It wouldn't be so bad if you were moving!

I am determined to start working out again. I printed out about 50 pages of local work-out schedules at work today. Yoga, tai chi, water aerobics, laps, weight training, kickboxing...I think I can at least do all of these per week. And maybe a triathlon or two.

I have an idea that can make us rich, you lucky reader. Shhh. Just between us, it's a "body-enhancing dressing room mirror". We will revolutionalize the fitting room experience. The dirty and unpleasant "stall", with its broken locks and glaringly invasive lighting, must be transformed into an exclusive nightclub, where everyone looks HOT! HOT! HOT!. We need colored lighting, definitely. Carpeting. Music (probably Mark Kozelek). Wine. Hell, we need filters. Who would want to have their photo taken without major filters? Okay then, they must also be integrated into the fitting room experience.

We are living in the "dark age" of fitting rooms. I feel Neanderthal. On the other hand, AJ believes that fitting rooms are good the way they are because they motivate us to lose weight. But I bet if fitting rooms made women feel beautiful, stores would sell lots more clothes, especially bathing suits.

AJ and I, assessing our education and talents, imagined ourselves inventing these mirrored mini-paradises. We figured we'd crush up some old mirrors with hammers and add some stuff and stick it together and add some sand, and then.....

Well, let's face it, we need the help of a couple of husky scientists. Only then will we feel beautiful.

Wednesday, March 02, 2005

Goodwill

AJ says I'm obsessed with Mark Kozelek, but she should talk, she was the one who was "having his twins" after the concert! It is because of my love for good music that I am writing about him one more time. And the fact that I spent about an hour today looking for pictures of him on the internet certainly doesn't mean I'm obsessed. I'm just a visual learner.

AJ and I didn't conjure up too much mischief today. I watched the rest of the first season of The OC (OK. That's embarrassing). Then AJ made fun of me for about two hours after I misspoke and called it "The AC".

We spent a couple of hours at Goodwill, which is always good for keeping things in perspective. There was a mother with three cute little kids at the checkout, and the cashier was so nice to them. They wanted to wear their "new" coats, but the mom said they needed to save them for good. AJ always finds t-shirts and sweats (she wears them for dance) and today I bought a book called In Short: A Collection of Brief Creative Nonfiction. I have a goal that I will always feel comfortable shopping at Goodwill.

Which brings me to (guess who?) Mark Kozelek and his interview in No-Fi Magazine. He compares LA and San Francisco, and says that LA just isn't his taste, that "...everybody I know has a couple of houses and a couple of cars and nineteen year old girls who have three cars and a house in France. And then, up here (S.F.)…everybody is four people living in a flat and struggling and then down there (L.A.) it seems like everybody I know is…it’s like there is so much money and I don’t live that way. So when I’m down there, I feel...maybe a little bit of an inferiority complex or it’s like I don’t really belong…” He goes on to say, “... in San Francisco, amongst the people that I know, I’m one of the guys who sort of has it together a little bit. But down there, I feel sort of like I don’t really have it together, everybody around me has so much success and they’re just moving up this ladder...”

I really love this guy and his "born in the midwest, down-to-earth, struggling artist that hasn't sold out" persona. But what do you do when you are 40 years old, maintaining mid-level fame, can't afford to buy a house in San Francisco and are telling the audience to "shut up" at your concerts? This guy is so talented. He should be taken care of. Life isn't fair.

But isn't it interesting?

Snow Day #2

SCHOOL IS CANCELLED TODAY:
Wednesday, March 2, 2005

AJ and MJ will be conjuring up some major mischief today.
All hail the snow gods!

Tuesday, March 01, 2005

Snow Day Dreams

I step out of the shower at 4:30 this morning and hear the phone ringing. Heart pounding in expectation I bound out of the bathroom and grab the receiver with my dripping hand. I hear her sultry voice and without hesitation I express my undying love. I have missed her words of comfort in the early morning hours! We share fleeting glances as we pass in the school halls, but we have waited so long for a day like today, and my breath catches in expectation at her sleepy greeting. "I love you," I gush, and she replies, "No school today."

Yippee! It's Mrs. F, the teacher above me on the phone tree. "You know I love you, don't you?" "Go back to bed," she replies flatly, and I, ecstatic, throw on some sweats and head up to my little room, where AJ is passed out after watching The OC until 2am. I decide that it is a good time to explore other blogs, and I begin clicking on "next blog", passing site after meaningless site until I finally become really depressed after reading a blog by some old guys that live in Cancun whose lives revolve around a variety of women visiting them and servicing them with massages and sex. I find myself losing faith in the human race, so I crawl back into bed and pull the covers over my head.

Suddenly I find myself in a big comfy old house in my hometown that has been turned into an entertainment venue. I wander around the rooms alone, and finally sit down in an inconspicuous spot adjacent to where the band will be playing. Other people are here too, but they don't notice me. I wander into the kitchen where the woman who owns the house focuses in on me, tells me I can live there. I obviously don't have anywhere to go, but it doesn't feel right, and I leave. I walk down the familiar road where one of my best friends in high school lived. Looking north across the flats toward the river tall cliffs have appeared. I am enchanted to see an elephant walking slowly on a high ledge. Stopping, I see a llama standing nearby. Down below in the tall brown grass another elephant slowly swings its trunk . I feel strangely comfortable in this beautiful landscape where all familiar perspective is skewed.

I wake up feeling groggy and take a cup of coffee up to AJ. We watch The OC and discuss whether Luke is hot or not. AJ says Luke looks like an elephant's ass. Sandy is a DILF and Marissa is a skanky slut monkey.

Snow covers the earth today, it bends the branches of the pine trees in the yard and cars slide through the stop sign at the corner. Kids, all bundled up, trek by carrying sleds, headed to the hill behind us. It seems that everything important in my life happens away from that place where I spend most of my waking hours. The weather channel was on in every classroom in my wing of the school yesterday, and in my classroom at least, teachers and students alike had their fingers crossed. God, I love snow days.